tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post7540958028200395979..comments2023-12-19T02:27:30.112-08:00Comments on Narrative Heiress: The goodness of going beyond 1 kidAshley Andersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15960809269667040621noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-19141263935321012662015-04-21T09:25:23.354-07:002015-04-21T09:25:23.354-07:00Thank you so much, Bonnie. Your praise means a gre...Thank you so much, Bonnie. Your praise means a great deal, and I won't shy away from admitting that. :)Ashley Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15960809269667040621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-3575292697618138982015-04-21T09:24:27.844-07:002015-04-21T09:24:27.844-07:00LOL. Melissa, do you think we do this whole pride ...LOL. Melissa, do you think we do this whole pride about our parenting thing because it is hard to be a new parent and we need to puff ourselves up a bit to cope? Just a thought. I know I would fit into that thought. Also, NEW MOM = "look how Junior eats!" EXPERIENCED MOM = "you'll eat it if you are hungry enough." ;)<br />Ashley Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15960809269667040621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-24262170264816680732015-04-21T09:22:26.585-07:002015-04-21T09:22:26.585-07:00Oh my gosh, Rosie. I hadn't thought of that. ...Oh my gosh, Rosie. I hadn't thought of that. That is so interesting, the witness to fraternal twins really being their own despite a seriously matched upbringing. I wonder when you started to really see those differences because Alistair & Emerick, although they "feel" different to me, are still pretty much two peas in a pod, two peas that are pretty similar in almost all things. Ashley Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15960809269667040621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-43561633929984632902015-04-21T09:19:49.209-07:002015-04-21T09:19:49.209-07:00I love that you share this. I love that our kids ...I love that you share this. I love that our kids are giving us tangible, real ways to grow in understanding of each other. Being judgmental of others has often been a distraction from my own problems. The relief I feel in knowing that there are reasons outside of my experience for why others do things differently is just enormous and wonderful! Ashley Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15960809269667040621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-61871955738765282492015-04-21T09:16:47.601-07:002015-04-21T09:16:47.601-07:00Anne, I once watched my 2 year old pull his cousin...Anne, I once watched my 2 year old pull his cousin's hair...like in a really nasty, awful way. It was shocking. So shocking I was frozen. I didn't discipline. I couldn't move or speak. My sister-in-law came to the rescue and took care of the situation. My life flashed before my eyes and I felt I was constantly five steps behind my son and I was way out of my league. My mom taught me something great in the aftermath of that experience, and that is to EXPECT EVERYTHING in advance. Wow, that's some awesome advice! And just the best because I've pretty much seen and heard and walking into everything you can imagine so far. I've learned to not take situations so seriously but to act quick and be firm but not disastrous in handling the teachable, formative moment. Nope, you are NOT a personal failure. You are great & you are taking things one day, one hour, one teachable moment at a time! Ashley Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15960809269667040621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-38483541363138059992015-04-19T12:06:33.994-07:002015-04-19T12:06:33.994-07:00Bravo. I love this piece and I really appreciate y...Bravo. I love this piece and I really appreciate your honesty, Ashley. Well written, well said. Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01805401564651493025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-60088834193227882412015-04-17T09:37:59.841-07:002015-04-17T09:37:59.841-07:00Oh yeah. I knew everything about parenting, especi...Oh yeah. I knew everything about parenting, especially after having had exactly one child. He was the neatest eater ever. Clearly that was because we had delayed giving him solids until he really wanted them, slightly after when the recommended introduction time was. He never needed a bib. He just had a narrow ring of food around his mouth. We had done it RIGHT.<br /><br />And then we had his sister. Food all over her face. Food in her hair. Food on her clothes. Food on the floor. Yep, we were experts. We were the Perfect Parents. ::sigh::Melissa H-Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03674140433439195917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-6430666013017669752015-04-16T19:01:07.587-07:002015-04-16T19:01:07.587-07:00I knew SO much about parenting before we had kids!...I knew SO much about parenting before we had kids! Interestingly enough, having twins has taught me more than anything just how little their behavior has to do with how we parent them... This whole fraternal twin thing is INCREDIBLE! They're totally different, despite the exact same upbringing!<br /><br />Also, I was convinced we were doing something SERIOUSLY right when John Paul turned out to be totally brilliant. And now I realize that really, he's just ridiculously smart and it has nothing to do with us, considering the girls have had the same upbringing and none of them are as ridiculous as he is!Rosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12888635342531960478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-41888906675387579582015-04-16T12:07:12.241-07:002015-04-16T12:07:12.241-07:00One of my big humbling realizations was that my fi...One of my big humbling realizations was that my firstborn's stellar Mass behavior? NOTHING to do with me. At all. So say my 1 year old twins. And so says my now-three-year-old, somewhat-less-than-stellar firstborn. :-P I remember the first Mass I was so angry at my children that I was crying and suddenly, I realized just why some people leave their young children at home when they go to church--a thing I had found unfathomable before. Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17699055172049185864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6624869368313438635.post-90301268760625221642015-04-16T09:59:01.111-07:002015-04-16T09:59:01.111-07:00Great post. And a great reminder for someone like ...Great post. And a great reminder for someone like me (who's a mere 10 months into this parenting gig) that it's not because of a personal failure that my son has suddenly taken to defiantly slapping people across the face. And I'm sure i'll need to remind myself of this many times in the future!Anne Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01229102446180148782noreply@blogger.com